First, I'd like to thank you for even taking the time out of your busy day to read my blog. I promise, there will be many more to come.
This particular blog is a result of an email I received recently that I cannot fully wrap my head (or heart ) around। It came from a person whom I thought was a friend (we've known each other for well over 10 years)। After I read the email, I re-read it 3 more times to make sure that I was reading it right! I am gonna copy and paste the email so that those who read this can comment, offer advice and ponder. Here is the email that completely blew me away and inspired me to start a blog:
"Ja-Relle, I am emailing to ask you to please stop contacting me. The relationship we had has dissolved and I am fine with that. It is not something I wish to discuss further, but for you to accept and move on. I would appreciate no further contact (Facebook, email, phone calls, etc) and hope that you would respect my wishes. Too much drama over the past few years. I wish you no harm or bad feelings."
Well, that was the email. No explanation whatsoever. Of course, I responded with questions such as, "What happened since the last time we talked?, Drama--what kind of drama have we EVER had to cause this sort of email? I also wrote that closure is something that is needed in a situation such as this one...may I at least please have that? I went on to say that although the truth hurts, I can withstand it, but I can't right any wrongs nor learn from my mistakes if I don't know what I did to warrant her email.
I must say this, though, I have a VERY strong 6th sense. I had it when I ended my engagement and the same gut feeling is there now. That 6th sense is telling me 2 things: 1) There is a 3rd party involved and 2) Before the email was written, consultation was needed from someone that we both respect very well and who knows how to compose emails, letters and correspondence in a way that in non-confrontational. Maybe I'm wrong, but just what if I am right?
If you haven't guessed by now, this email was the motivation for my first blog. It has always been said that people come into your life for a "reason, season or a lifetime". I unequivocally thought that this particular person was a "lifer". Boy was I wrong. I'm sure there will be questions regarding our friendship (now dissolved), so I'll try to answer those that I would want to know if I was reading a blog such as this one. I have known this person for well over 10 years. We were colleagues for 7 of those 10 years and throughout our working relationship, I learned so much from this person. So much in fact that every single member of my family still asks about this person to this day. I have baby-sat for this person's children and a couple of years back, I was given a key to this person's home. We were friends before the working relationship, during the working relationship and after I had to relocate and eventually leave my position with the company due to a medical issue which caused myself and many people around me pain. Throughout the medical ordeal, though, this person stayed right by my side.
At the ripe old age of 33 years of age, I am not "looking" for friends. In fact, I have very few people that I DO call my friends and I can count them on one hand. I was watching the Wendy Williams show last night when a very attractive female stood up and posed a question to Wendy regarding having a baby with a close friend of hers. This particular audience member was 25 years of age, beautiful, yet her worry was that her biological clock was ticking! OMG was my first thought and by the look on Wendy's face, you could tell she was thinking the same thing. Wendy offered this young lady advice, but the portion of the advice that stuck with me the most was when Wendy told her that she's only 25. By the time she's in her early 30's some of the "friends" that were there when she was 25 wouldn't be there. In other words, my opinion was that Wendy wanted her to reconsider having a child with her current 'friend'. That friend may turn into a "reason" (giving her something she wanted) versus a "lifetime" (who's to say that once the baby arrives, he won't stick around for a "season".) Perfect advice.
I challenge you to evaluate YOUR personal and professional relationships. How many people can you truly say are your FRIENDS?
I also would love your feedback. Please feel free to ask questions and offer advice. One thing I forgot to mention was that after I wrote back to this individual begging for an explanation, there was no return email. I took that as, "I'm not speaking/writing to you again."
Thanks for your time...don't forget to leave feedback and direct your friends and family to my new BlogSpot. Hope to hear from you soon,
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